Let’s look at some common success myths:
- We believe success is impossible, so we criticize it. Because we want to believe that life should be easy, we assume anything that is difficult must be impossible. Then when success eludes us we are tempted to throw in the towel and say, ‘Who wants success anyway?’ And if success is achieved by anyone we consider less worthy than ourselves, we really get ‘steamed’.
- We believe success is mystical, so we search for it. The problem is, we want the rewards without paying the price. Seth Godin says, ‘We need to stop shopping for lightning bolts. You do not win an Olympic medal with a few weeks of intensive training. There’s no such thing as an overnight opera sensation. Great companies [and great churches] do not spring up overnight…every great thing has been built in exactly the same way: bit by bit, step by step, little by little’.
- We believe success comes by chance, so we hope for it. We say, ‘She just happened to be in the right place at the right time.’ Wrong! The chances of that happening are about as good as your chances of winning the Lottery – 18 million to one. If you are really serious about success, you will agree with one small business owner who had a sign posted that read: ‘The 57 Rules of Success.’ Rule One: Deliver the goods. Rule Two: The other 56 do not matter.’
- We believe success is the result of opportunity, so we wait for it. Many people who work hard but do not seem to get anywhere, believe that the only thing they need is ‘a break.’ Their motto is, ‘if only.’ If only my boss would cut me some slack… if only our church was in a better area of town… if only I had start-up capital… if only I had married someone different. Sound familiar? People who do nothing more than wait for opportunity, are neither able to see it or seize it when it comes.
- We think success comes from having leverage, so we work for it. This idea is reinforced by the words of people like industrialist Andrew Carnegie: ‘Success is the power with which to acquire whatever one demands of life.’ So we take that a step further, assuming all successful people have taken advantage of others to get to where they are, and begin to look for ways to manipulate people too. We believe we can force our way to success, but it does not work.
- We believe success comes from connections, so we strive to make them. People who believe in connections think they would have ‘had it made,’ if only they had been born into the right family or met the right person. But those beliefs are misplaced. Knowing good people has its rewards. But connections alone will not improve your life if you are off track.
Do you know that using The Healing Codes will help you overcome YOUR Success Myths?