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Reminder About The Healing Codes Special Christmas Gift

Don’t forget The Healing Codes special Christmas gift to you!

On December 25, 2011 (in this hemisphere) starting at 1 PM US Eastern time (New York) we will be having a special event for people who might otherwise be alone. We ask you to join us.

This is a place for sharing by the people attending, albeit if someone needs to ask a question, we will try and answer it!

The theme of this portion of the interactive event will be “Opening Our Gifts”.

Read about it at A Special Healing Codes Christmas Gift and join Tom and Mary Ann Costello for this very special time.


The Cutting Edge – The Gifts Aren’t the Gifts. You are the Gift.

December 20 ,2011

The Cutting Edge, At the Heart of Health will be on Wednesday at 1pm Central, 2pm Eastern.

This week we are privileged to hear E. Thomas Costello, head of The Healing Codes Practitioners program, speak to us about ‘The Gifts Aren’t the Gifts.  You are the Gift.

You don’t want to miss this. And you will have the opportunity to get a custom code from JoHanna Chan, a Certified Healing Codes practitioner.

If you are registered for the free Membership, you will get an e-mail with the dial in details and you can also find that information in your Member area. If you are a free Member you will have the ability to listen over the web – right on your own computer through your speakers without the need to dial in!! So if you’ve wanted to listen without having to use your phone, this is your chance.

Watch your mail or check the Member page for a new phone number!

If you are NOT yet registered (remember, registration is free), you can register easily by clicking on this Membership Registration link. You will also see many of the other benefits of free registration.

A Special Healing Codes Christmas Gift

On December 25, 2011 (in this hemisphere) starting at 1 PM US Eastern time (New York) we will be having a special event for people who might otherwise be alone. We ask you to join us.

There will be a pre-recorded talk by Tom Costello titled, “The 12 Stresses of Christmas and Other Holidays.” The theme of this talk is to acknowledge some of the commonly experienced stresses and considering different viewpoints to reduce some of that stress.

You don’t have to wait until Christmas Day to listen to the recording. You can download it here or listen to it on your computer with the player just below.

Tom will be asking you to do some drawing so he created a hand-out to help you do that.  Get it first and print it!

At 2:15 PM Tom and Mary Ann Costello will be having a live call that you can join by telephone, Skype, and through the internet. The length of this part of the call will be at least an hour and perhaps more, depending on the attendance and how much interaction we get. This is not our Thursday night “Q & A” but an open conversation between a loving family. This is a place for sharing by the people attending, albeit if someone needs to ask a question, we will try and answer it!

The theme of this portion of the interactive event will be “Opening Our Gifts”.

A typical Christmas morning can be the process of getting or not getting the gifts we wanted. Today, however, we will focus on the gifts we have already received in our lives from the main ‘gift givers’, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, aunts, uncles, spouses, daughters, sons, grandchildren, cousins, nieces, nephews, friends, mentors, teachers, and others.

It is our choice to look for experiences in our lives that we can appreciate and which have before and can again instill gratitude and joy. Since most of us want more feelings of gratitude and joy, on this day, we will focus on re-living those experiences and fond memories.

The plan during “Opening Our Gifts” is to recall and speak of the times our growth was supported, we were nourished in some meaningful way such as someone showing confidence in us, how someone helped us heal from a deep hurt, protected us from a lie or threat that would have distorted our sense of self, when our needs were met in kind and gentle ways, and more.

This is not a discussion of “toys I have received” but rather a round-table discussion/free-for-all about the inputs from others that have added value to our lives, our sense of our own Identities, and our willingness to do the same later in our lives.

Another way of putting it is, the gifts are when we were connected to the energies of other people and we felt more secure as us, more willing to create good in the world.

Since we anticipate a full call, we suggest you ‘prepare’ a brief description of the gift you want to share with others on the call.  Please also be prepared to talk about the givers of the gift and the value you received from it.  Who nurtured you? Who taught you the values that have helped you survive and thrive?

This will be a wonderful experience for all of us.

Here’s how to dial in/listen to the call:

Primary dial in number: (941) 926-6155
Secondary dial in number: (757) 201-9725

Pin code: 060310#

We do expect a LOT of people on this call so dial in a bit early if you want to listen on the phone.  If you cannot get in, there are instructions on how to listen through your computer and yes, you will be able to ‘talk’ (not out loud but through the question box) on the internet.

This is free, no strings attached!  That means we are NOT collecting your names and e-mail addresses so there will be no e-mail reminder unless you are already registered as a Free Member.  So, if you aren’t registered and don’t want to register, bookmark this page and put this on your calendar.

Thursday Open Forum Coaching – TONIGHT!

Join us for the Thursday Night Open Forum Coaching call.

This Open Forum Coaching call is at 8:30PM Eastern Time and is scheduled for 1 hour but ALWAYS lasts longer. Tom tries to answer every question!

You have the chance to listen over your computer so you don’t have to make a long distance phone call. This format also lets you key your Healing Codes questions into a question box for Tom to answer on the call. Of course, if you want to dial in and listen over the phone, you can still do that!

If you are a Member, you will get an e-mail with the dial in AND web ‘listen in’ information. It is also on your Member page.

If you are not a Member, go ahead and join so you can take part in this Open Forum Coaching. More and more people are listening and participating via the web. Register here for free and join Tom Thursday night to ask your questions.

Remember, we have a new phone number! Watch for that on the Member page and in your e-mail.

Hope to see you tonight!

Remember – THIS IS NOT THE PLACE TO ASK QUESTIONS! Ask them on the call. You have 2 places where you can ask questions on the call – live or on the internet. Questions asked as comments here will not be answered. Thanks

Are You A Perfectionist?

Do you struggle because you are a perfectionist?  If so, you are not alone.

Question:  I’m a graduate student struggling with the negative aspects that come along with perfectionism.  I have a chronic illness which keeps me down a bit but the main issue is that I always feel like I have to do things “right” and I constantly rotate between anxiety, anger, and depression with regards to graduation.  I’ve tried to use the healing codes (I’ve read the whole book twice!) but it just seems like this is something too deeply ingrained in my person and sometimes I don’t even know where to start healing…..

How do you heal something that seems so completely embedded into your personality?  Any suggestions you have would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks for your time.

Answer by ET Costello (head of The Healing Codes Coaching Program):

You are talking about vibrations which should be ‘right up your alley.’

Let’s take the sound of a fingernail on a blackboard.  I hope you aren’t so young that you don’t know that sound. 😉

Memories can be like persistent ‘fingernail on the blackboard’ vibrations which activate an unpleasant physical experience.

As you do the Code (reading about it is only to motivate people to do the Code. Reading serves no therapeutic purpose.), you are quieting the mind and relaxing. You would have specified what you want to heal in the Prayer/Request which I recommend you speak aloud. Then, gently focus on (feel, see, hear, know, or otherwise sense) the ideal condition of being flexible, relaxed, confident, quick to adjust as new information becomes available to you.

Perfectionism is a flawed approach to avoiding Rejection but the trouble is…

1.  Human perfection doesn’t exist.  It is subjective.
2.  You will fail every time to be perfect. That will make you angry that the ‘deck is stacked against you’ and it is.
3.  After failing every time and beating yourself up (a huge step in the direction of imperfection) you will feel hopeless and depression sets in.

I recommend another scale of measurement since Perfection isn’t a scale, only an imagined point.

I call it the Scale of Effectiveness because you and I are always trying to be more effective. We can succeed every time even if we make a ‘mistake’ which will be a sign of effectiveness if we recognize the result is less effective  than we want.

Draw a horizontal line.

0 __________________________50___________________________100

You will never be 0% or 100% effective. Usually we are in the range of 50% – 75%.

Even if you fell down as you tried to stand up, you are being effective:
1.  you had a thought.  That’s effective.
2.  you decided on an action. That’s effective.
3.  you took action. That’s effective.
4.  you discovered a way not to stand up. That’s effective.
5.  you are now more knowledgeable. That’s effective.

Someone projected a false rule onto you that to succeed/be happy/make them feel good about themselves, etc.,  you had to be perfect. You will be more successful and happier if you are fun, kind, thoughtful, genuine, persistent, and open to learning and growing.

Do the Code, quiet the mind, and see if you can get to a place with no thought so you can receive awareness. You will be very pleased with yourself.