One day — after using the Healing Codes for about a month — I dropped a dish in the kitchen. As I cleaned up, I noticed something different with my inner dialogue. Instead of berating myself for, say, being “clumsy”, my thought was simply, “oh well, mistakes happen.” (I also noticed how efficiently I took care of the mess since I wasn’t wasting energy getting mad at myself).
After this, I made a point of bringing awareness to my thoughts in various situations. And I happily discovered my self-talk had improved immensely.
This was not something I had focused on with the Healing Codes. In fact, I had never realized there was a problem with the way I spoke to myself. Often, we see how destructive our negative habits were only after we’ve made a healthy change.
Improvements with self-talk can be subtle and gradual. I like to ask clients if they have noticed changes in this area. After reflecting, they almost invariably say … “yes!” Some have commented they didn’t know what to call this change, but simply realized they weren’t “getting angry at myself as often” or “calling myself names” or “telling myself I can’t do things”.
Some noted they had at last broken patterns of self-talk that began earlier in life with others speaking to them harshly or inappropriately. One person mentioned, “I’ve finally stopped talking down to myself the way my mother used to, and I feel so free!”
These changes in self-talk are signs of deeper healing that can be related to any or all of the 12 categories outlined in the Healing Codes manual or book. For example, we:
– recognize how harmful it is to speak negatively and untruthfully to ourselves
– become kinder to ourselves
– see the inherent goodness in ourselves
– have greater patience with ourselves and our imperfections
– gain a healthy humility with balanced self-confidence and self-respect
– feel more joyful, which is naturally reflected in the way we speak to ourselves
– learn healthy self-control and the value of supporting ourselves over bringing ourselves down.
And of course, when we experience inner healing, it not only positively impacts how we relate to ourselves — but to all those around us.
Have you noticed any changes with your own inner-dialogue?
Cynthia Nelson is a Certified Healing Codes Coach.
You can connect with her at www.facebook.com/cynthianelson.healingcodescoach and by calling 604.738.3303.