In our work as Healing Codes Coach/Practitioners, we encourage clients to come up with a “love picture” to focus on while doing a Healing Code. A love picture is a memory of a time when they felt very loved and secure.
Sadly, some people have trouble coming up with even one loving memory for a love picture.
A recent conversation with a friend reminded me of the fact that we can help other people heal by creating love pictures for them. Mary told me how she went out to breakfast with a friend the day before. How her friend made her feel so loved. “I went home and got so much done!” she told me. ” And I didn’t need to use my nebulizer [for asthma] once!”
Interesting, the connection between “feeling so loved” and having a productive and healthy day.
This week, I had an opportunity myself to perhaps create a “love picture” for my daughter. When she went to bed with a queasy stomach, I thought, “Uh-oh.” Two nights before, I’d been up all night with stomach flu. Now it was her turn.
At 1:30 a.m., I heard her in the bathroom. I got up and went to her. For the next four and a half hours I stayed with her, holding her head as she retched every 15 minutes. She kept saying, “I’m going to die.”
All through the night, I held her hands or her head, prayed, stole away when she was able to lie down to do some Healing Codes for her. After about 4 hours, she held my hands tightly and said, “I love you, Mom. I’m sorry I was unsympathetic when you were sick.” Sweet words, especially coming from a teenager! Shortly after that, she was finally able to lie down and sleep.
That night changed something in our relationship. I think she felt in a new way that I love her. The love that her head knew was there, now penetrated deeper into her heart. And into mine, too.
By God’s grace, a miserable experience was transformed into a love picture that perhaps she will cling to someday. When she remembers that night, I hope what will stand out was not the misery, but the memory of someone being with her. And I pray that she will know that Someone who loves her is always with her, sharing every moment, even the most miserable.
What kind of love pictures can you create for someone else today? As a parent, a friend, a partner, we have tremendous power to heal, just with our love.