Being A Perfectionist?

The day you were born God smiled.  He did not need to create you, He chose to. When you fully grasp that you will never again have the problem of feeling ‘less-than.’

Farai Chideya graduated from Harvard, worked for Newsweek magazine and quickly rose to the top. Yet she spent years living in the private hell of bulimia, trying to become like the glossy images in the make-believe world around her. When she finally broke free from the destructive grip of her disease she wrote, ‘Losing weight did not change my personality and it did not lighten the emotional baggage I carried from my childhood. I thought I wanted to be thin. What I really wanted was to be happy, and neither my looks nor my achievements could do that. Because I could not love or accept myself, the acceptance of others was never enough. When I tried to be perfect I came across as remote and unapproachable, yet the exact opposite was what I wanted.’

Then she shares four life-changing principles: ‘Your obsession to be perfect will: a) keep you trapped in loneliness, for satisfying relationships can only be built on honesty and total acceptance b) force you to see your shortcomings as something to hide instead of opportunities for growth c) keep you fixated on what you are going to be some day, instead of enjoying what you are right now d) rob you of the chance to make your life count, for by focusing constantly on yourself you will have nothing left to give to others.’ Think about it!

Written by and used with permission from Tim Hetzner.